He's just not that into you!

Friday night I went to see the movie "He's just not that into you".. I have to admit that I had a great laugh and even sometimes I could relate to the characters. To a certain extend it was a reality check and always weird when you watch a movie like this with somebody you are dating. You so dont want to admit there is some situation that you do act like the crazy girl, or the one that is desperate to fall in love.

A couple of years ago I was just like the crazy cute lovely girl in the movie. I realise with my mistakes that it would never work if I kept asking myself questions on every single action that a guy could do towards me. Is it maturity or the fact that every single time I would act this way it would end up in a big failure, most probably I let myself go a bit more and dont analyse every single actions. Ok, i'm not quite perfect on it, but I have a better control on myself as well, and also I think it all depends on the type of guy you are dating. If he is considerate and that he does'nt play games you dont have to ask yourself all those stupid questions. You just go with the flow.

There is one really important thing that you have to stop doing girls, keep your life, dont let go friends for a man, and keep your social life. I'm speaking by experience, i dont do that anymore, but I did it in the past and who was the most miserable? Me! Keep you're independancy, this is what makes you as a person, the people that surrounds you are vital. They will always be there, dont let them down for love. Love is beautiful, but it's not a lifestyle, it's a compliment to your existing life.

I'm thinking just right now that I did mature, it's weird for me to write this, and the worse part or maybe the good part in this is that i sincerely believe in what I just wrote. Wow! Rare i'll say that, but it's wonderful to be 30 sometimes :D.

I sincerely think thought that the type of men you meet is as well repsonsable for your action to a certain extend. If he let's you become dependant of him well when it's becoming to hard on him, it's really difficult to go back at what it use to be at the beginning. So guys dont let your girl become dependant of you, but let her be part of you and your life more as a complice then a ball and chain to your ankle.

Perhaps, two people that are meant to be together will naturally adjust their needs and I dont think it becomes a problem. The human being loves to have control on their actions instinctivly. So when we feel we dont control the situation we do everything to get the control back. And obviously we do really stupid things. So when you are with a partner and you feel that both of the partners has the same power, equally given and received, dont let him go, he's the right one....

Bottom line, "he's just not that into you" might be because we rationalise everything and we dont let life do her job....

Just follow your heart and not your instinct...